Travel Lessons Scrawled at 35,000 Feet

This month, my husband and I spent ten days on holiday in California, visiting our son, getting an awards (my husband, that is), and soaking in beauty of all sorts. On our flight home, I wrote down some reminders to myself and thought later that I should share them with you.

The world is bigger and wilder than I often think. I imagined the sequoias to be five minutes inside the park.* I didn’t imagine the folds of LA canyons.

There’s so much glorious natural diversity in this world

Follow what catches your imagination

Go lightly in the world

Be flexible: make a plan but flex with it when the road falls into the sea.

Know your limits – the cliffs, the sketchy neighbourhoods, the unmasking

Know your desires

Trust your partner. Be grateful for those in it with you

Try new things – hot pot, tea ceremonies, hot pepper toast, burritos

Go to the local places—The Little Chicken, the Casa Burrito place, the Turkish breakfast café, the pick-your-own ranunculus farm you read about in the local paper

Use what you brought with you – your bike helmet, your poles, your hiking boots

Splurge in the right places (Chez Panisse) and not the wrong ones (Carmel by the Sea)

Push yourself harder than you think, but know your limits

Get onto the local time zone the first day even if it hurts

Make littlewhile friends sometimes but not always

Listen to books and music set in the local area (We listened to The Big Sleep by Raymond Chandler as we drove through and from Los Angeles and then Mr Penumbra’s 24-Hour Bookstore as we entered San Francisco.)

Cut loose

Take the good tours and learn from those who know

Climb the mountain early in the day

Bring good footwear

Have reverence for nature

Be very present

Notice the dandelion in the botanical garden

Soak in the ocean air and smells but know it will never be enough, that you can never capture it

Waste some time

Know when you’re in over your head

Be as cheerful as you can be. Don’t be like cranky dad on the SF streetcar, demanding an outside seat, ordering his children to “Look!” and getting off in a huff

Spend time savouring a trip once it’s done. We ruminate over bad things, but we’re much happier if we reflect on the beautiful ones too.

*Instead we had to rent and carry snow chains as we ascended switchbacks up the mountain for an hour and more than 6000 feet into the High Sierras with their new-fallen two feet of snow, and there weren’t always even lips to the road as we navigated our way up to where the sequoias grow.

The Bestseller Experiment

One of the best gigs I ever had was reviewing books for our local newspaper although I was not paid a cent for my reviews. Each week, the Books Editor would send out a list of new releases to the stable of reviewers who could ask for the books we wanted to review on a first-come-first-served basis. We would make our way to the newspaper office where we would pick up whichever books we had chosen. I called it The Book of the Month Club although some months I read far more than one book. Given the free nature of the books, I was willing to take a chance on books or genres I might not otherwise read—and in so doing discovered some amazing gems.

This month I had a similar experience: when my literary agent suggested I give the fiction bestseller list a try, I was introduced to a whole new group of writers and titles.

One thing I think made me a good book reviewer is being both a writer and a reader. I know how much work and passion goes into writing any book. It might only take two or three hours to read a book that might easily have taken months or years to write. A reviewer’s words can stab like a knife between the ribs. (I’ve been there. For all the “Reading this book was a special experience” comments, I’ll always remember the person who said of one of my novels, “Where’s the drama, the scandal, the thrill? I suppose I am used to fantasy and drama in the books I read.” A friend describes this phenomenon as “it would have been better with zombies.”) At the same time, books aren’t cheap and a reader’s time is valuable so a good reviewer has an obligation to tell the truth to help potential readers make their choices.

I came at this reading the bestsellers project with both reader and writer hats on, too. I’m no snob when it comes to reading— I think people should read the kinds of books they most enjoy and that life is too short to finish bad books and to start books that don’t appeal—but the bestseller list is just never where I start finding books to read. Aside from algorithms on book-selling sites (“If you liked x, you might like y”), I tend to find books from like-minded readers online and in person.

When it comes to writing, however, I have to admit I might be more of a snob. I like the words of the novelist Toni Morrison who said, “If there’s a book that you want to read, but it hasn’t been written yet, then you must write it.” That’s how I’ve always written: the books I want to read rather than ones written to the market.

My agent once told me what was selling best was what’s known as bonnet fiction – gentle fiction about the Amish—and wondered whether I might want to take a stab at it myself, to write to the market. I live in an area that has many Amish and Mennonite people within it but proximity didn’t give me the right to write about a culture that wasn’t my own, I thought. I wasn’t sure I could pull it off in a way that had integrity. (Interestingly, now after finishing a theology degree at a Mennonite university, I am writing a book where the narrator is a young conservative Mennonite woman. My heart is in my throat knowing that the cultural concerns remain. I will get sensitivity readers for this novel.)

But this reading experiment put my writing prejudices to the test. It was a way of asking: what do people enjoy reading? Is there overlap between that and what I write? What can I learn from what is selling like hotcakes? Is it integrity or is it ignorance on my part? Am I making the assumption that bestsellers are the literary equivalent of junk food?

I would find out.

What I will say about the first book I read is that Oprah liked it. But even Oprah described it as escapist. As I read the romance, although the characters are not in high school, it reminded me of how I felt about romance and boys at that age. It also was about characters who’ve been through hard things and experience healing and restored relationships and a true happily ever after. But what struck me most about the book was the dialogue and descriptions, both of which seemed to be blow by blow. The effect was to feel like I was hearing every single word and seeing every single thing that happened. It felt like I was being invited to enter an alternative reality, a fantasy world. It was a big ah-ha for me who writes books about characters who wrestle with tough questions and their own interior life to remember that sometimes readers have challenging lives and they just want a little escape, a little fantasy, the hot guy from years ago to come back, seasoned like fine wine. I didn’t love the book but it was a nice escape in the same way that perhaps a Hallmark Christmas movie is a nice escape. And people need a break. That was a good reminder.

The second book I read was The Maid by Nita Prose. This was much more up my alley. I loved the premise – a hotel maid is essentially an invisible person who can thus see and do things under the radar. The author works as an editor and created fabulous quirky characters. It was no A Gentleman in Moscow (a glorious novel set in a hotel) and no Eloise (a delightful children’s series about a hotel-dwelling child) but it had a terrific narrator’s voice, a wonderful pace, and great techniques for revealing and concealing plot. I was really sad, therefore, when this book didn’t stick the landing. Instead it made some shocking moves plot-wise and shifted into fantasy territory in a way that lessened the book for me. Still I gobbled it up like popcorn and found myself reading chapters in spare moments because it was just that compelling. I haven’t read the sequel yet but despite my reservations I still think this was a worthwhile read and I will likely look for the next in the series. What I take away from it as a writer is a reminder of bringing bright energy to pacing, voice and plotting. I believe the author had fun writing this one and the reader has that fun in the discovery too.

The third book I embarked on is Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano. Oprah is also a fan of this novel and author. It’s a story with multiple overlapping voices who take turns telling a story much the way family members might tell a well-known legend from their past. This makes sense because the book is about a tight-knit group of four sisters and the people in their immediate circle. One character new to the cirlce says of them, “they conducted a kind of love that seemed voluminous. It required talking over one another and living on top of each other and it was a force that appeared to include people both present and absent, alive and dead.” The story takes place over decades although there are a few jumps in time, and it mostly takes place in a neighbourhood in Chicago. The sisters reference their love for the novel, Little Women, and I feared that this might be yet another modern-day retelling of another work of fiction, but Napolitano avoids that for the most part. Like the first book I read in this experiment, the experience of Hello Beautiful is immersive so that I did feel I was living in the small details and large events of the family’s life. This book is strong all the way through with patterns emerging and plot lines converging in ways that surprised me but also had a beautiful sense of inevitability. I came away feeling tender toward the world, kinder and softer. I did not cry and I did not laugh out loud but this book did get me in my feelings. In hindsight I can be a bit more critical—there is a token friend who is a person of colour, 9/11 and its aftermath is entirely omitted by characters who live in NYC at the time, and there is a fairy tale-like quality to the lives of the characters—but I loved how the author took a quite formulaic story, broke it open and then found a way to repair it that reminded me of kintsugi – the art of mending broken pottery with gold. In this book, quite explicitly, the gold is love, and loving people for who they are.

I intended to read more from the bestseller list (I have a Kristin Hannah novel on my Kindle waiting) but the books were not short and in between reading them, I got sidetracked by reading Woman, Watching, a fascinating genre-defying book by Merilyn Simonds that is mostly a memoir of a woman named Louise de Kiriline Lawrence, a birder who lived in northern Ontario through the 20th century. I also read two books by Laurie R. King – Back to the Garden and The Lantern’s Dance. The second of these grew on me as it is one of her Sherlock Holmes-and-his-wife mysteries but neither of them were as readable as the popular books nor as interesting as the quirky Woman, Watching.

So what do I learn as a writer from this experiment? Or as a reader? I remember what Louise Penny said about how she began writing. In 1996, she walked away from an 18-year career as a journalist and radio host, convinced she was going “to write the best book ever.” Five years later, the historical novel she was writing was utterly stalled and instead she was “watching a lot of Oprah and eating a lot of gummy bears.” (Three mentions of Oprah in one essay!) She said her breakthrough came when she decided to start writing the kind of books she loves to read: mysteries. She describes the process as one of relaxing into being herself.

I’m not sure any of these books are ones that are likely the type to sit on my bedside table or to be the kinds of books I’d like to read. But Penny’s words remind me of a line from a song that often comes back to me. The song is called “Let Go” by the duo Frou-Frou. The line is “too busy writing your tragedy.” The tone of the song is gently, kindly ironic and it’s one I need to hear. The chorus says instead,

“Let go, yeah let go, just get in
Oh, it’s so amazing here, it’s alright
‘Cause there’s beauty in the breakdown.”

The reading experiment showed me that in a challenging world what many readers are looking for is less a mirror to their tragedy and more of a comedy in the broadest sense of the word. I also think there’s escape and then there’s escape: such books can be written well or they can be a kind of teenage fantasy.

Many of my books have some really fun secondary characters—think Honey in Renaissance. In my daily life – in the voices I create for my two dogs, for instance – I have a lot of humour. When I sit down to write, I never think I need to write tragey or even Serious Fiction. But I am reminded of a couple of experiences.

Lectio divina is an exercise where a person reads a small portion of text (usually a piece of a sacred text) multiple times, listening first for what jumps out, then for what memory is evoked, third for what invitation is given and finally to simply rest in the awareness of the words and the process. Nearly always what jumps out for me is the tragedy, the gloomy, the hard, but then what follows is surprisingly (to me) joyful. Many people start with a “fine thanks” surface and then go into the hard stuff, but it’s almost always reversed for me. I’m happier than I think I am.

I also recall being part of a painting class during a tough time in my life and at the end of a particularly hard week. I grimly laughed, saying I would paint my canvas black because that would express my mood. And I did. But then I found myself adding a little purple and a little navy and by the end, I had painted a firebird of a woman emerging out of the darkness, all the colours aflame and a mysterious moon above her. I could not stay in the tragedy any more than the readers of popular fiction seem to be able to.

How do I bring this awareness to my writing? If I sit here and ponder the question, I’ ‘llslip back into the tragic introspective energy rather than the energy of the opening lines: “I am your maid. I’m the one who cleans your hotel room, who enters like a phantom when you’re out gallivanting for the day, no care at all about what you’ve left behind, the mess or what I might see when you’re gone.”

I don’t imagine I’ll be Louise Penny discovering a whole new genre and I can’t quite see myself writing escapist books but I suspect there might be something in moving toward the witty voices, the imagined plotlines, the fun energy and the love of these books…and of my imagined versions of my dogs.

As the younger of my dogs says about being good, “It isn’t as easy as it looks.” She’d agree with Frou Frou too, though – whatcha waiting for? Jump in.

I just might.

Holy Week

This week is Holy Week in the Christian calendar. Last week I needed to do a fasting blood test and the woman who drew my blood is Muslim: she was practising Ramadan. We talked about how she had risen at five to get caffeine into her system, how fasting is challenging. Through Lent this year, my husband and I have given up meat other than on Sundays. It has been an excellent discipline but not as hard as fasting from caffeine or from eating and drinking during daylight hours.

Lent is part of my practice and I need to tell you a secret: my book Renaissance is a Lenten book. I once wrote a Christmas-themed book (Seeker of Stars) and this one is a book that travels through the challenging days of Lent, the season when we give up things that aren’t bad for us but might have a hold on us. It isn’t stated explicitly in the book – although early on the main character does see people wearing ashen crosses on their foreheads and stays in Italy for fifty days.

What is clear is that the main character flies home on my favourite day of the year, Holy Saturday. It’s my favourite day in the same way that Thursday is my favourite day of the week and March is my favourite month: it’s the moment when everything good is ahead. But it is also a vulnerable moment, a moment when we have been through the depths of Good Friday and when we don’t always know that Easter Sunday is coming. That’s why the physics concept of Schrodingers Cat makes it into the book too – the thought experiment that says two things can be true simultaneously until the situation is observed. We poise on the equinox, the days and nights of equal length. At the winter solstice, people traditionally gathered around their desire that the sun would not continue to disappear. The equinox, tied into Passover and Easter, is that moment when we believe the minor chords will resolve into major but we just aren’t certain.

(This morning in church – Palm Sunday – I had the opposite experience. Palm Sunday begins with what looks like the start of the happy ending – that the man on the donkey is being recognized for his true identity, being proclaimed king. We were given palm branches to wave and wave I did, joyfully after several palmless Covid years. Then we were asked to put our palm branches on the altar, and something shifted – not a continuous move toward the light and the happy ending but a shadow that said we don’t just get to celebrate. We have to go through Good Friday and the cross first. Then, the service concluded with the singing of hosannas I’ve only ever heard as a jubilant hymn, reset to a familiar Good Friday tune of lament. The juxtaposition took my breath away: here we go.)

I once attended a Good Friday service that attempted to imagine the disciples on Holy Saturday, clever people who didn’t resemble the bumblers and betrayers of the Bible accounts and who instead said things like, “Hey, remember when Jesus said x. I wonder whether maybe he meant that he will come back to life.” That’s not Holy Saturday, not as I understand it.

Holy Saturday is the longing for light and life and for death not to be the final word, mingled with the fear that it might be. It’s Princess Kate’s cancer diagnosis. It’s the child in the hospital, the marriage on the rocks, the being passed over for a job, the heavy snow on the first day of spring. In my book, it’s the flight home where the main character does not know what will lie ahead.

This week I will be traveling. Though I have gone on the Lenten journey and though I have gorgeous plans for Easter Sunday in California’s sequoias, my Good Friday and my Holy Saturday will be messed up. I cringe as I admit to you that there is a possibility that at the moment when the church recalls Jesus saying “It is finished,” I may well be on a Hollywood Tour of the Stars open-air bus. What I want to say about that is to echo Walt Whitman’s words: I contain multitudes. (That doesn’t make it better, does it?) But Holy Saturday contains multitudes too, or at least paradoxes: hope/despair, light/darkness, heads/tails, alive/dead.

This week I invite you to read Renaissance in this light but even more than that, I invite you to sit in the paradoxes of your life and the world. As Christine Valters Painter writes in her Holy Week blessing (from a forthcoming book of blessings due to be published in spring 2026):

Travel with us into 
the border spaces of unknowing
holding death and life, 
the liminal realm of in-between…
Bring us into communion 
with all those who suffer
from poverty, hunger, war, abuse,
climate crisis, pollution, clearcutting, 
the whole of creation groaning
together in labor, 
birthing a new possibility,
one only dimly seen
in quiet moments, 
a glimmer in the eyes
a song in the throat. 

The Last Elmer Story

My dad loved a good story and he was a great storyteller. Every night before bed he would tell us a bedtime story about an elephant named Elmer. My dad also listened to us and encouraged us to become who we are. My dad never made me feel restricted because I was a girl and before anyone else recognized my writing, I always felt that my dad was proud of me. He died on January 12, 2024 after a long journey with dementia. I wrote a new Elmer story to honour him and read it at his funeral for all of us. You can honour him by sharing this story with someone else.

Once upon a time not too long ago but very far away in the deep dark jungles of Africa there lived an elephant and his name was Elmer.

One day Elmer was walking through the jungle on his way to school when up ahead he spotted his friend, the missionary. They had been friends for many years so Elmer hurried to catch up to the missionary on the path.

“Good morning,” Elmer said. “Where are you going?”

The missionary looked up at him in surprise. “Oh, it’s you, Elmer. I’m headed out to the clearing on the other side of the jungle.”

“Without me?” Elmer said.

“You can meet me there later,” the missionary said.

“But I like walking with you,” Elmer said. “We have such interesting conversations and we watch out for each other and we find beautiful birds and fragrant flowers along the way – I point them out with my trunk or you point them out with your finger. I don’t want to walk without you.”

“I know,” the missionary said. “Walking through the jungle together with you is my favourite thing to do. But this time we just can’t. I need to go ahead of you.”

Elmer stamped his foot so hard a monkey fell out of a tree.

The missionary laughed. “That won’t help,” he said. “You’re on your way to school and other people are depending on you. I need to get going sooner than I thought.”

Now Elmer felt sad. “But what will I do if I see a beautiful flower or a scary snake and you aren’t there with me?”

The missionary looked right at Elmer. Elmer saw that the missionary’s eyes were filled with love and that the missionary’s eyelashes were almost as long as elephant eyelashes.

“Smell the flowers,” the missionary said. “If someone else is with you, point out the flowers for them to smell too. And as for the scary snakes, I need to tell you a secret: I’ve never been able to protect you from danger. We only made each other feel braver together. You do need to keep an eye out for dangers but we never came across as many as you might think given that we were walking through a jungle.”

Elmer thought for a moment: every single day there were beautiful flowers and funny monkeys. There was sunlight coming through the leaves of the trees and raindrops dancing on spiderwebs. There were other friends to meet on the path and snacks to eat along the way. They always kept their eyes out for danger, but dangers didn’t come every day. Maybe the jungle wasn’t so scary after all.

“But am I big enough to walk on my own without you?” Elmer said. His voice wobbled a little.

The missionary laughed again. “Elmer. You’re an elephant. You’re the biggest thing in the jungle. But anytime you don’t feel big, you can always find someone who will walk with you.”

Elmer felt a little bit bigger and a little bit better.

“And on this walk, you can know that I will be waiting for you in the clearing ahead. When you catch up to me, we can tell each other about all the beautiful things we’ve seen.”

Elmer nodded slowly. He suddenly remembered the day he had first met the missionary, the day they first walked through the jungle together.

“What does missionary even mean?” Elmer had asked him then.

“It means sent,” the missionary explained.

“Like a letter?” Elmer said.

“Exactly. Like a letter full of good news.”

Now Elmer looked at the missionary. “I thought it was bad news when you told me you were going ahead without me but maybe it’s a letter full of good news being sent ahead for me to read later.”

“Exactly,” the missionary said.

Elmer looked again at the missionary, his best friend. “You look tired,” he said.

“I am tired,” the missionary said. “That’s why I need to get going soon. Sometimes people are as fragile and delicate as flowers. I like that it says in the Bible: ‘if God cares so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and gone tomorrow, won’t he more surely care for you?’”

“I will try to remember that,” Elmer said.

“I’m sure you will remember,” the missionary said with a smile. “Fragile people sometimes even lose their memories, but as you know, elephants never forget.”

Elmer smiled too. Then he realized he also had to get going. He waved to the missionary and they headed off down their different paths. Then Elmer remembered something he wanted to say to the missionary. He turned around but the missionary had already gone around a bend in the path. It would be okay, Elmer thought. He would tell him when they met again and they would all live happily ever after.

Top 10 Books of 2023

The final year of my undergraduate degree I had to read more than fifty novels for school which, as I recall, put me off reading for a couple of years. Now I am older and my reading muscles are more built up, I kept reading even after I finished my master’s degree last year. This year I read fluffy murder mysteries and weighty tomes. I read books made of paper, books made of bits and bytes on the Kindle app on my phone, and books made of sounds—audiobooks. Audiobooks are my least favourite way to read but they are my husband’s preferred way. I’m no snob –whatever works for you! I counted and I read more books than I did in that last year of university but I didn’t have to report on any of them – actually that’s not strictly true: I ended up leading a book discussion about one of the books.

I do like looking back over the books I read in the year. As I go, whenever I finish reading a book I write it at the bottom of the day’s page in my journal. If the book is really good and really worse than I expected it would be, I will add a few notes to remind myself at the end of the year. I do want to say that there were a couple of disappointments this year, books I had eagerly anticipated that just didn’t live up to the hype, mine or their publicist’s. Because I also released a book this year and I hope no one would say that about mine, I won’t draw attention to them. When I look at the books I most enjoyed this year, I would say that the common denominator is that they are inventive, making the reader look at the world, literature and themselves in fresh ways.

Are you ready? Here, without further ado, is my top 10 list for 2023:

10. The Scandalous Confessions of Lydia Bennet, Witch by Melinda Taub.  I’m beginning with a fun and fantastical book. Later in this list you will see a retelling of the lives of the Brontes and this is a retelling of the Pride and Prejudice crew. I’ve encountered a reimagining of that story once before in Pride and Prejudice and Zombies, a book I highly enjoyed for its reimagining of Lady Catherine De Bourgh as a zombie with an unhinged jaw and its explanation for why the militia was hanging about (to combat the zombie hordes). This book brings a very different addition to Austen’s world, one in which Lydia and a number of other characters are actually and secretly witches but few know it. The book is told by Lydia as a retelling of her running off with George Wickham for very different reasons than supposed by the narrator or characters of the original P&P. Some of the reviews of this book suggest it will be of interest to readers of Jonathan Strange and Mister Norrell (a book I liked but did not loooove as some did) and it is definitely fantastical and good fun with layer upon layer of plot and intrigue.

9. The Flag, The Cross and The Station Wagon: A Graying American Looks Back at his Suburban Boyhood and Wonders What the Hell Happened by Bill McKibben. I know Bill McKibben primarily as an environmentalist but in this memoir he examines America form his childhood to today through three lenses, patriotism, the church and the American Dream as exemplified by the station wagon. For me, the section on the flag was a particularly strong section as McKibben revisits his childhood beliefs first as he recalls them and then as he reexamines them. At this time as the American Empire is fraying, such a reexamination of how we got there is a thoughtful and instructive exercise. It’s also probably one that any of us would benefit from undertaking – checking what we believe and how we got here.

8. Wolfish: Wolf, Self and the Stories We Tell About Fear by Erica Berry. This book came to me at the right moment. I am well acquainted with fear and for Berry some of the fear comes from men who pursue her in ways we might consider wolfish, something that happened to me one day this fall. At the same time, she questions that description, wondering whether wolves themselves are actually wolfish or whether they – or the men – are products of our own cultural and personal fears. She does a deep dive into the history and cultural references for wolves and intersperses stories of the real-life relocation and tracking of wolves in the north-eastern US where she is from with her own stories of her own fear. At times this book becomes a bit self-absorbed but that is exactly what fear and anxiety do, is it not?

7. Em by Kim Thúy. I think I first heard about this book on the radio where the word play of the title was especially evident. Thúy is a Quebec-based writer who came to Canada from Vietnam as a refugee child with her family. The title of this book which was originally written in French is a word play – aime is French for to love, while em in Vietnamese is the pronoun used to address a younger person (sort of the inversion of sir or ma’am). This is a book of interconnected stories and people around the US-Vietnam war that lead from one to another to another. At first the stories and the people seem connected in a straight line with the original ones dropping off, but it is not as straightforward as it appears and eventually people and connections reemerge in ways that make us hope for the characters. While the characters are fictional, the book also gives insight into real life Vietnamese-American culture and events that shape the Vietnamese diaspora including Operation Babylift after the Vietnam war and the rise of Vietnamese-American nail salons around the world. The book is told in short, fragmentary chapters — Thúy writes, ‘In this book, truth is fragmented, incomplete, unfinished, in both time and space.’ Awful things happen in this book but as — Thúy says, “in every conflict zone, good steals in and edges its way right into the cracks of evil.” This book is ultimately beautiful and hopeful and was nominated for a variety of illustrious prizes for both its author and its translator, Sheila Fischman.

6. Ordinary Wonder Tales by Emily Urquhart. I don’t know Emily but she lives in my city and is the daughter of writer Jane Urquhart and painter Tony Urquhart whose journey into dementia she chronicled in a moving book I rated highly a couple of years ago. I heard she had a new collection of essays out and so was eager to read it and it exceeded my expectations. Emily Urquhart holds a PhD in folklore and she draws beautifully on this way of seeing people and their lives and their stories. In one of the essays she captures perfectly how writers come up with ideas for stories with a bit of this and a bit of that. This collection teaches the reader to notice the wonder and magic in everything going on around us, but not in a fanciful way so much as in an observant and caring way. I definitely recommend this one.

5. David Copperfield by Charles Dickens. I said I was going to avoid listing the books I didn’t enjoy but thought I would but here I need to say something about one of them. Let me back up first. During the height of the pandemic, I did a Master’s degree in theology and my husband and I undertook a self-guided degree in classic films we had never seen. We made our own “curriculum” based on lists of the best films of all time and every Friday night we rented a movie that filled in our education. I know what Rosebud means, what Soylent Green really is, and that Hitchcock really liked icy blondes. There are similar gaps in my reading history so when I heard that Barbara Kingsolver had written a 21st century Appalachian version of David Copperfield that involved the opiate crisis, I decided I would fill in the gap and read the OG version by Charles Dickens. I read the book while sick in bed last winter but it was captivating from start to finish/. It was written as a serial story published in newspapers in installments in 1849 and 1850, and was apparently written without an outline and was Dickens’ own favourite book. It is described as a bildungsroman, a story that follows the growth and development of its hero from childhood to adulthood. Dickens—or David Copperfield who narrates his own life story—takes this very seriously: the first chapter is entitled, “I am born” and begins with the moment of his birth: Whether I shall turn out to be the hero of my own life, or whether that station will be held by anybody else, these pages must show. To begin my life with the beginning of my life, I record that I was born (as I have been informed and believe) on a Friday, at twelve o’clock at night. It was remarked that the clock began to strike, and I began to cry, simultaneously. This is a book that stands the test of time because it is a compelling series of adventures and misadventures.  I loved reading it and was sorry when it ended. I mention Barbara Kingsolver’s version which is brilliantly entitled Demon Copperhead. I started it and put it down. I suspect if I had read the Dickens version many years ago, I might have enjoyed the new one more but I felt like I had just read the story and so I wasn’t terribly interested in a version where the addiction and economic issues felt dangerously too real. I think the Kingsolver book is likely excellent and as important as Dickens’ book was in his time and perhaps even more so, but I really enjoyed the original this year.

4. Half-Life of a Stolen Sister by Rachel Cantor. I have a young relative who has nicknamed herself Bronte. She asked me not long ago if I knew anyone else by that name and I had to say I did not. Somehow at the age of 7 she had heard of the Yorkshire sisters who wrote the books Jane Eyre, Wuthering Heights and more. She asked me to tell her the stories of those sisters and the stories they told. There was some consternation on both our parts about the first Mrs Rochester in Jane Eyre (“But why would he…?” “It’s a good question…”) If my young relative was a bit older I might point her to this fascinating book by Rachel Cantor. The book has a terrible title. It really does. But it is a wonder, a creative imagining of the inner life of the Bronte family starting in childhood and all the way until the final sibling dies. But the book does not even attempt historical accuracy although it is very evident that Cantor knows the Brontes inside out and backwards. Instead it is a reinterpretation of the family in a more or less contemporary context, one that gets right at the intimacy and creativity and small lives and enormous genius of this group of siblings. It’s a strange book but the playfulness of it and the willingness to transpose the family into other contexts while still keeping them every bit themselves actually gave me a closer sense of who they might have been – or at least I believed in Cantor’s versions of the characters. The addiction of the one brother and the love of his sisters and father is heartbreaking, as are the lost loves and deaths that the family experienced. I know I said that I didn’t love Demon Copperfield and you might think this is contradictory of me to like this one and not that one but, as Walt Whitman famously said, “I contain multitudes.” I also wonder whether it makes a difference that Cantor was imagining biographies while Kingsolver was drawing on a particular text. In any event, if you’re a Bronte fan, give this one a try. It is interpretation and not every part succeeds – it is written in a wide variety of genres including lists and play scripts – but on the whole it really is satisfying in the way the best dreams satisfy even if the walls and floors don’t all line up the way they would in real life.

3. How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny Odell. This book has a beautiful cover, covered with brilliant flowers. It has a compelling title that scratches the itch we all have to take a little break, a rest, or at least to put our phones down for a minute. But it isn’t at all what you think. It isn’t a book about self-care and while it is non-fiction it really is not a how-to book at all. It is a book that will make you feel smart at times and really dumb at other times (or is that just me? It might just be me.) I did have the feeling that Odell is smarter than me throughout and that she thinks even more than I do. But this book is also not a book that encourages the reader to stay in their heads, their neck bent forward, their thumbs typing away. No, to give a fair bit of the premise away, Odell’s idea is that we can’t simply refrain from giving our attention to the virtual world but instead we need to give it to the world around us, to the plants and animals and waterways that surround us. She encourages the reader to reenter their senses and their neighbourhoods, and to recognize the revolutionary, anti-capitalist stance that this is in today’s world. She doesn’t suggest withdrawal from contemporary life but she suggests participation on our own terms rather than on the terms of those marketing to our attention. This book is a bit heady and I did feel overwhelmed at times but it changed the way I move and pay attention in the world and that was very much worth it. (This is the book I led a book discussion about, with other writers who work with my literary agent. We are all encouraged to be active on social media and to build a platform so that people can hear about our books. This book did not deny that but encouraged us to have a self that is part of a human and more than human community from which to write and tweet.)

2. The Betrothed by Alessandro Manzoni, translated by Michael F. Moore. One of my children has Aslan for a middle name, taken from the Narnia books because my husband and I were big fans. One of my siblings, by contrast, went to a summer camp where Narnia was shoved down their throats for every single activity and that sib developed a resulting aversion to Narnia. Apparently a similar thing happens with kids in Italy who are forced to read two classic books over and over and over again. One of those books is Dante’s Divine Comedy while the other is apparently I Promessi Sposi, a book that didn’t make the jump outside Italy much. Until now with a new translation, The Betrothed, by Michael F. Moore (who is not the filmmaker but a lover of Manzoni and the Italian language). This book is considered a classic of world literature. The book is set in the 17th century but was written in 1821 and then was revised and revised and rewritten until 1840. It’s a long book at more than 700 pages but it’s just a good story told well. There’s love and betrayal and plague and war and corruption and innocence and faithfulness and betrayal and social issues and more. This is apparently the first English translation in fifty years and it is eminently readable. I highly recommend it.

1. Tom Lake by Ann Patchett. I simply adored this book for many reasons. I am hit and miss when it comes to Ann Patchett. She is a treasure in the book industry as both a writer and a store owner. Some of her writing has taken me to my knees while other books of hers leave me cold. This was neither. This was a wonderful warm hug of a book. I will tell you reasons why I loved it based on the story but I will say first that one of the reasons I loved it so was because of how I experienced it. I think I have mentioned before in my top 10 lists that I really like choosing books to match my holiday locales, something like a wine pairing with a meal. Our first trip to Lake Superior a few years back was accompanied by the chilling brilliance of Waubgeshig Rice’s Moon of the Crusted Snow which is set in northern Ontario. The next year we listened to Mary Lawson’s Crow Lake. We tried to listen to The Namesake on a trip to Boston where it is set but as much as I loved the film based on that book, the book wasn’t especially listen-able. But Tom Lake. The audiobook of Tom Lake was read by the inimitable Meryl Streep. (As an aside someone once told me Meryl Streep was my celebrity doppelganger, especially her hands, and so I always try to see her hands when I watch her in any film.) Audiobooks are always better when read by an actor than by anyone else, including the author – there’s a lovely voice actor who reads my book – but while Meryl Streep could probably make the phonebook sound delightful, the thing is that she is utterly believable and entirely submerged into the main character of this book. And the main character is a woman who lives and works on a cherry farm on the west coast of Michigan. Which was exactly where we were headed on a trip this summer. The pairing was…chef’s kiss. We drove along past rolling hills covered with fruit trees, wondering why some had been upended—and then the book mentioned in passing why this was so. We were immersed in the landscape we were listening to – something I can’t recommend enough. We stopped at a cherry store and bought cherry wine, dried Michigan cherries, and cherry concentrate as we listened to what had brought this woman and her family to the farm from very different lives at Tom Lake. Another aspect of my enjoyment of this book is that it is framed during a time when colleges close and migrant workers are hard to find and adult children come home – the reason is obvious to anyone who lived through 2020 and beyond but it is not specifically mentioned. What is mentioned is how much the narrator, the mother, exults in having this found time with her adult daughters, how this time of global upset is also a beautiful gift for some. Like the narrator, this was my own experience. The book skirts very close to the line of sentimentality but I think it avoids it. It’s funny and lovely. It’s well crafted with its revelations being perfectly timed. I don’t know whether you need to drive across to the dunes and the cherry trees of Lake Michigan to enjoy it, but honestly I’d recommend you do that trip anyhow and I’d recommend you read the book either way. Especially if it’s read by Meryl Streep. (One last word on the audiobook question. I mentioned that Ann Patchett owns a small bookstore. Most people tend to buy audiobooks through Amazon and Audible which are the natural predators of small bookstores so you might think that Patchett would choose a lousy voice actor to read the book to support small bookstores. Instead she recommends listening to the book and also recommends a site that was new to me libro.fm which is an audiobook site that allows the purchaser to send the profits to the small bookstore of their choice. Many books – including mine – are available this way. The formatting and price are similar. It just benefits the little store. I recommend it highly if you’re an audiobook reader/listener.)

Oh….and I have a bonus book for you. It is a treasure written by a friend. Simon Sort of Says by Erin Bow might be my favourite of all her books. I had the privilege of doing some editing on it before it went out to find a home. It was longlisted for the National Book Award (which is a big deal) and is rumoured to be at least a nominee for the Newbery Prize. It’s sensitive and laugh-out-loud funny and quirky—and it takes place in the aftermath of a major major school-related trauma. But it’s about recovery from the trauma with the help of great new friends and loving weirdo parents and a puppy and a distinct lack of the Internet for scientific reasons. This is a middle grade novel but this well-past-middle-grade reader adored it and highly recommends it to you and yours. If you want a second bonus book, let me point you toward my own newly released novel. I won’t say too much about it except that it’s set in Italy, and it is a really good book for moms and for bookclubs. Renaissance by Susan Fish: I’d love it if you checked it out.

Happy reading! And do tell me your favourites from 2023!

Inviting a Writer to your Bookclub

I once visited a bookclub whose claim to fame was that they created an appropriate martini for whichever book they were reading. (I was at that bookclub to discuss my Christmas-themed book, Seeker of Stars, and the martini made with cranberry juice and rimmed with crushed candy cane was so delicious that I only took two sips because I was afraid I would guzzle the whole thing and be that writer if the alcoholic content was as high as I thought it might be.) By contrast, I have heard of bookclubs that involve spreadsheets and rating systems and Robert’s Rules of Order.

There are bookclubs where the book is the point and bookclubs where the club is the point. Every bookclub is unique.

As a writer, I truly love engaging with people who are engaging with my book. It’s one of my favourite parts of the whole business of writing. It’s wonderful to sit around a living room or a Zoom room with people who are discussing something I’ve written – someone once said a book is not fully published until it’s been read, and there’s something very satisfying in experiencing that my ideas turned words have turned back into ideas in someone else’s mind. It’s magical, really.

What I have found, however, is that hosting a bookclub can be challenging, especially when the author is present but also just generally. A couple of years ago I came across the work of someone who can really help with this: in many ways Priya Parker and her book, The Art of Gathering, changed my life. It certainly changed how I lead groups – because she taught me how to take hosting seriously, how to find the sweet spot between being bossy and controlling and being laissez faire and expecting an event just to unfold because people are there together. She’s the reason my play groups begin with people holding their hands together to make the “curtains” rise and end with people drawing the curtains to a close.

Here are a couple of fantastic quotes from Priya:

“Gatherings crackle and flourish when real thought goes into them, when (often invisible) structure is baked into them, and when a host has the curiosity, willingness, and generosity of spirit to try.”

“Why is this night different from all other nights?” Before you gather, ask yourself: Why is this gathering different from all my other gatherings? Why is it different from other people’s gatherings of the same general type? What is this that other gatherings aren’t?”

“Reverse-engineer an outcome: Think of what you want to be different because you gathered, and work backward from that outcome.”


So what does this mean if you’re hosting a bookclub, and what does it mean if you’re inviting an author to your bookclub?

First, people are busy so we want to value their time. This is true for every member of the bookclub. When you’re inviting people to a bookclub—reader or author – spend time thinking about what is expected of them and what they can expect, and then let them know. My local bookstore hosts a men’s only bookclub and here is part of its delicious description: “The lads meet at a local watering hole for discussion, libation and an occasional fist-fight over selected crime-fiction titles.  Long-standing grudges are expected and encouraged.” Not everyone will want to be part of such a bookclub but those for whom this is a fit will instantly know that these are their people and their books. And that’s what you want.

Will there be snacks? What should you do if you haven’t finished the book? What time will it end? Is this more of a drinking club than a reading group? How snobby is it? Is leadership shared? How much participation is expected?

These are important elements to communicate when you’re setting up or inviting people to join your bookclub. (Speaking of which, if you don’t have a bookclub, local bookstores and libraries are great sources of connection, but you also have the opportunity to create your own, inviting friends and neighbours to discover and talk about books.

If you already have a bookclub, you might want to think about how to jumpstart your bookclub beyond discussion of who liked/disliked what. Oprah has a fun list of unexpected people you could invite to your bookclub. I’m not suggesting you need to follow this list but it might spark your imagination for what your bookclub could be.

If you are inviting an author, as I said above, let them know what your bookclub is usually like, both philosophically and practically. At the same time, a bookclub where the author is present ought to be different from your usual bookclub meeting – simply because the author is there. One publishing website puts it like this:

“An author visit is a rare experience to gain more insight into the book you’ve read, learn about various inspirations, and hear about what an author may be working on next.  It may seem obvious, but it’s important to make it clear to members that the author is a guest to be respected. This isn’t an occasion for members to list what they didn’t like about the book or to complain about how a character was written or the way a plot point was resolved…[instead] view the author’s visit as an exciting interview where they get to learn more about the book.”

Plan a list of questions ahead of time. You might want to discuss the book ahead of time online or at one bookclub meeting, generating questions you would like to ask the author when they meet with you. You can also make use of resources – many authors like me have prepared discussion questions connected with their books.

This one might seem obvious but encourage members to buy a copy of the book and to read it if the author will be attending. It’s not a requirement but it is a kind courtesy. I know I can speak on behalf of all authors when I say that authors are delighted to sign copies if the bookclub is in person or bookplates to send if the bookclub is a virtual one.

Finally, know that it is a pleasure for an author to attend a bookclub. Don’t hesitate to invite them. Some writers I know schedule one bookclub a month while others would be happy to attend multiple bookclubs a week.

 

I’m sure there are more tips too. I’d love to hear from you about your best (and worst) bookclub experiences, and to hear what you’d most like a guest author to know.

How Renaissance came to be, part III

(Click here for Part I and Part II)

I returned to Italy nine years after my first visit. I was in Europe for the second time in my life, this time accompanying my husband who was teaching at a conference in Switzerland. I was well into writing Renaissance by this time, nearly done my first draft. When we first began planning our trip, I had thought I would explore Geneva while he worked, but there was nothing there I really wanted to do. On a whim, I looked at the cost of flights to Florence: $30 each way convinced me.

So, while my husband was working, I hopped on a regional flight with the smallest of carry-on bags, stayed at a less pleasant convent filled with mosquitos and cranky nuns (the Sisters of Stability and Charity had sold their convent and it had become a resort), and spent twenty-four hours in the city, clocking many kilometres on foot and leaving behind a great deal of sweat as it was July and humid.

The city had changed in the intervening years, a victim of hypertourism especially during peak tourist season.

I was not as brave as my character Liz who went for fifty days on her own – I went for two days and a night. I had some wild adventures, not a man dying before my eyes in a water fountain as happened to Lucy Honeychurch, but it was a water fountain incident nonetheless, one that left me feeling like death for an hour or so. (I wrote about that adventure here.)

But, like my first visit to Florence, this was a joyful trip (hypertourism and fountain incident notwithstanding). I wasn’t there because I needed to escape my life. Instead like Lucy Honeychurch, I was closer to finding my life while there.

Around the time of this second trip and in the intervening years, the grief I had anticipated was coming true: my kids were leaving home. They left and returned (the pandemic gave us an unexpected victory lap) and left again and returned again. I cry when they leave usually but it rarely lasts more than a few minutes.

It makes me think of what Indigenous poet Paula Gunn Allen says about the changing roles of women as we spiral through the phases of life. “We begin our lives…walking the Way of the Daughter. This is the time for learning, for gathering experiences in the shelter of our parents. We move next to self-reliance, when the necessary task of the age is to learn who you are in the world.” (The A Room with A View stage, you might say). “The path brings us next to the Way of the Mother.” But then as those children move toward self-reliance, Gunn Allen says “our strengths turn now to a circle wider than our own children, to the well-being of the community” and eventually move to a wider sphere “beyond herself, beyond her family, beyond the human community, embracing the planet, mothering the earth.” (Braiding Sweetgrass, pp. 96-7)

Just yesterday a friend asked me how much of Renaissance was autobiographical. Of all the novels I’ve written, this one feels the closest to me, and yet it certainly still is fiction. It reflects my own emotional journey of sending my kids out into the world, but it doesn’t mirror it let alone actually represent it. I’ve written novels about places I’ve never been, but this isn’t one of them. This is a place I wanted to write about after visiting there. (There are some key locations in the novel, however, where I have never been even though they are real and even though I tried to get there.)

It’s a tricky concept to explain how a writer’s experience becomes fodder for a story. Maybe think of it this way: we’ve all had the experience of having a dream where we’re back in high school, only it isn’t our high school but maybe an ampitheatre with an open roof and then we realize there are stairs that lead to a room we didn’t know was there, and within that room is a couch from childhood and there’s a man sitting on it, a man we saw yesterday in real life on the bus, and in the dream we know he is our high school math teacher and he says something to us and we wake up and think, yes, that’s exactly what we need to hear. That’s what writing fiction is like, a dream-like pastiche of memory and invention, of emotional truth and exploration.

How Renaissance came to be, part II

(Continued from Part I: https://susanfishwrites.wordpress.com/2023/09/12/how-renaissance-came-to-be-part-i/)

My husband and I have three school-aged children and he has an impending sabbatical and we have saved funds to go somewhere. It’s 2009. We consider taking the kids to Africa and no one wants us there. It is a beautiful big world and we are eager to see it but we also struggle to choose where to go – Paris? Portugal? Kenya? Oxford? I am mowing the front lawn of our suburban home when I think to myself: Florence. It is as though a key turns in a lock. We decide we will take the kids on a Western Canada road trip to see the Pacific and the Rockies, but first we will travel without them for ten days in Italy.

We take eight weeks of Italian classes. Our fellow classmates all have Italian nonnas they want to converse with but I say that we are going to Italy in March and we want to be fluent. Our instructor laughs. I mispronounce gnocchi, which is a word that’s used in English, and I become fairly invested in the family of Signor Bianchi who are the characters of our Italian lessons.

Like Liz, we stay with the Sisters of Stability and Charity at a convent that used to be owned by a friend of Galileo’s and about which there is a story about Mussolini. We arrive terribly jetlagged and discover that Italian fluency would have been an excellent asset – that the nuns who conversed with us in broken English emails actually farmed out the communication to their once-a-week handyman. We muddle through conversation with smiles and gestures and eight weeks of Italian lessons. They have not one word of English.

My husband takes the stairs but one of the nuns and I climb into a miniscule wood-paneled elevator with our belongings. On the second floor of the convent we are shown into a room with twin beds and shuttered windows. There are no pictures on the wall. When we throw open the shutters, a la Lucy Honeychurch, it is indeed a room with a view. Our view is that of a hillside of olive trees and a tunnel of tall cypresses. Somewhere on the property is a glycine – a wisteria bush that is a thousand years old, we are told, although we are not there to see it bloom. I sit in the garden one day and watch tiny lizards scurry across the gravel.

We take the bus into town – we are in the hills on the Oltrarno on the edge of the city. We walk into Santa Croce and to the fountain where Lucy saw the Italian stabbed, and across the Arno where she threw her blood-stained postcards. We travel outside the city with a woman who offers pasta-making classes and who offers us red wine so fresh it makes our teeth squeak. We trade – as arranged ahead of time – a litre of maple syrup for a litre of olive oil, and all of us are satisfied with the arrangement.

We rent a car and drive to Parma for the simple reason that it is the home of Parmesan cheese, a substance that likely composes about 18% of my body. There we see North African prostitutes along the side of a rural road, a truck bypass. I feel sick at this. We drive about past a range of castles built as a line of defense by a true Renaissance woman of the medieval period. We drink potent alcohol in Modena with a colleague of my husband’s who lives there. Later we take the train to Rome which refuses to welcome me. It is smelly and there is a McDonalds, and while I know my art history, I don’t know my Roman history, other than to know that Christians were killed for sport and suppression in the Colosseum. What we see at the Colosseum is a costumed interpreter in full Roman regalia, texting on his phone.

Several years later, as I’m beginning the anticipatory grief of our kids leaving home – as an aside, after our eldest was born, the subject of my hormonal sobbing was the fact that “someday he will grow up and leave us” – I began to noodle around the idea of a novel set in Florence. I had just finished writing another novel. That novel involved a woman who was suddenly widowed and who became an environmental activist. Readers of that novel would often assume I had myself been widowed or that I was also such an activist; neither is true. But the emotions? Ah, the emotions were all very familiar to me. At the time I wrote that novel, my beloved grandmother was in her last months and I was learning my first experience of grief. That novel helped me through that experience, but it also went in all sorts of directions my life never had.

I began imagining a novel that was basically about Lucy Honeychurch at 50, deciding to approach the experience as a chance to do something she’d always wanted to do, to visit Florence on her own. I wrote a number of scenes, and some of them are in Renaissance now, but to be honest it was a bit mopey and indulgent, closer to therapy than fiction. At the same time, I embarked on a non-fiction project, reading and interviewing people about the process of children leaving home.

And then we had a series of family events that involved layers of trauma. The trauma we faced was not in the same ballpark at all as those in Renaissance, but just as with my widow novel where I drew on all the feelings of my own experience, so I began to imagine a character who was not going to Italy because it was pleasant and indulgent but because she had to get out, because she had been deeply wounded and was in need of healing.

This was no longer Lucy Honeychurch at midlife. Neither was it me. But she was someone who needed a rebirth. Her last name, Fane, is one I’ve encountered in Waterloo Region where both Liz and I live, but it’s also an archaic word taken from the Latin fanum, meaning temple or place dedicated to a deity. I meant that to be an oblique homage to Honeychurch. Her first name, Elizabeth, ties in with the character of Elizabeth in the Bible, the older woman who mothers the newly pregnant Mary, the woman who carries unexpected new life in her at an advanced age.

To be continued in part III

The launch, or how do you say ‘sturm und drang’ in Italian

A good friend struggled at her wedding because, as she said, it was still just me in a bridal dress. She had hoped to be transformed for the day into someone else, into The Bride. I thought of that on Sunday at my book launch – when it poured buckets and buckets of rain on our outdoor event but also beforehand when I wanted to be the Author but I was still just me with a published book.

How do you make sense of that wild weather? asks a friend who was at the event.

I am not sure.

I could have yelled Plot Twist if I had been in a different state of mind.

In the moment I thought of the movie, A Room With A View, which first put me on to Florence, the setting for this book being launched. In that movie, a huge storm brews, and the main characters must take shelter in a carriage and scurry back to the city. The clergyman who is with them tries to provide comfort:

Do you suppose this display is called into existence to extinguish you or me?

The weather was biblical, I say, thinking of the question my friend Erin asked during the interview at the launch, about the religiosity of the book. My son’s girlfriend, who is Vietnamese, tells me that in her culture being rained on is a sign of good luck, of good fortune.

There is a bit of good fortune in the weather: when I washed the tablecloths after the launch I realized the stain in one of them had come out with the rain. That’s something.

Another couple of friends met at the launch for the first time and talked under the tent as they waited for the weather to lighten up – one said she was not going to get her new suede shoes wet if she could help it. Their conversation helped her new acquaintance to realize that an experience he always described as sad was not only that, that something could be really good but still sad at the same time. He is about to go to Portugal and has been reading about saudade, the Portuguese word that describes yearning or longing for something, ‘the presence of absence.’ This morning I was reading a book and the same concept was described, there called sehnsucht, the German word for thoughts and feelings about everything that is unfinished or imperfect, paired with a yearning for ideal alternative experience.

Right now, my extended family is facing some profound challenges – someone I love is very unwell and in hospital – and so something that is really good, the book launch, is also still sad.

I decided not to visit the hospital the day before the launch, because I felt like I needed to gather my forces inside so instead I went for a long bike ride in the countryside, and then sat on a patio for dinner. And then on Sunday I gathered my supplies—the gelato, the bookmarks, the stickers, the extra books, the tablecloths, my notes, a couple of chairs—and headed out.

The launch was lovely until the skies opened up – even though all the weather apps and the radar said we would be in the clear. The raincloud that came suddenly stayed directly overhead. I went home cold and wet and with way too many forces still in-gathered, not having had an outlet for them.

The next day when I described how the rain had filled in the gutters and curbs so that the rain was overflowing onto the sidewalk in places, I thought of the real-life event that’s described in RenaissanceL’Alliuvione, the 1966 flood of Florence. One of the characters in the book, a tour guide, explains it to the main character:

 “In the fall of 1966, it rained seventeen inches of rain. It was also weirdly warm that fall so the early snows in the mountains all melted. And then, some engineers decided to let out water on purpose to prevent the dam above Florence from breaking, and all that water hit Florence like a tidal wave. Twenty feet of water and mud and oil.”

“Twenty feet?”

In some places. It was different in different parts of the city. These signs are at the high-water mark to show how deep it was.”

I looked at the marker above us. It was impossible to imagine the jade-green Arno flooding the streets. “That’s crazy,” I said.

It was a disaster,” Elora said and began walking again. I followed her as I had all day, listening. “People died. Tons of art was destroyed and there are crazy stories about art being rescued too—a museum director who swam with an original manuscript in his teeth to save it, international students they called mud angels.”

At another point in the book, a storm hits the convent in the middle of the night, wreaking havoc. The main character recalls how once one of her kids had looked up in disgust during a thunderstorm and said, “What is God doing up there?”

That was the question I was asking Sunday, both at the launch and in thinking about my person.

I was reminded of the moment when my main character sees a Pièta, a statue of Mary holding the lifeless body of Jesus. What she says is what I need to hear: “It wasn’t her fault, this mother, and she hadn’t been able to stop it when the Flood hit. What she could do was pick up his lifeless body and hold him. She could grieve.” It made me think of what psychologists call emotional flooding, when you feel like you’re up to your neck with emotions and feelings. That was how I felt at the launch. All the feels, as the kids say.

The next morning I was mad at myself for not being able to simply have a grand time at the book launch, for not being The Author, for just being me with a book out in the world. But maybe Sunday’s weather was a kind of pathetic fallacy. Maybe it was fairly appropriate for a book where the main character suddenly faces her own sorrows and joys.

And there were joys too. People celebrated my book and me well. I loved being surrounded by friends, family and strangers. My husband and my kids pulled together to make the event a wonderful success. I received gifts of olive oil and flowers and a book bag and an olivewood pen. People brought friends. My friend Erin interviewed me beautifully. The location was amazing. I brought flowers from my garden and my little olive tree. I had stickers made for the occasion.

Maybe I need to put one of those stickers on myself. The stickers say: good enough mother. The term comes from a pediatrician who determined that children did not need perfect parents – that good enough parenting was good enough. Maybe that’s what saudade and sehnsucht, remind us of – that the rain will fall, the floods will come, we won’t be the bride in some ideal glory, we will have our loved ones in the backs of our minds and hearts even as we laugh and sign books, but life is both really good and still sad, that that is good enough, that that is good.

How Renaissance came to be, Part I

When I was in high school, I lived in Mississauga, a train or a bus and a subway away from downtown Toronto. Mississauga was safe and suburban. Toronto was exciting. As I began to gain more freedom from my protective parents, I found myself prowling the St. Lawrence Market area of Toronto. I ate alone at The Old Spaghetti Factory. I wandered the market and a store called Frida’s that smelled of patchouli and had white cotton nightgowns and weavings from India. I bought a bell pull made of fabric chickens. And I took myself off to the movies alone too – to see the movie A Room With A View. This movie is the story of the awakening of a sheltered proper girl with masses of dark brown hair and a waspish waist, who felt peevish after playing Beethoven. The girl’s name was Lucy Honeychurch but she might as well have been me in so many ways, unchaperoned at last in the big city, feeling my newfound freedom. Lucy begins as a sheltered young girl visiting Florence with her peevish maiden cousin. And then Italy and George Emerson work their magic on her, and she loosens up, and she sees a man die in front of her, and she is seized in a meadow on a hillside and is kissed. I can’t express how much I loved this movie. It was funny – the subtitles! – and charming and the awakening happened in the fields around Florence.

I went to the prom that year, not in a satin or silk dress, but in a longish white cotton skirt with layers of seams on it, folds sewn down, and a white cotton blouse, with lace edging. My only concession to it being the mid-80s was that I wore the outfit with Madonna-like white lace tights on my legs and white shoes. But I felt like I was Lucy Honeychurch, or that I was approximating her.

In English class that year we had to do independent studies, and I chose to do the works of E.M. Forster, the author who first wrote Lucy Honeychurch into being. His motto, repeated in his books, tattooed itself into my life: only connect.

It was Forster who introduced me to Florence, to humour, to male nudity in the sacred lake, to Art and Life and Beauty in their capitalized glory. He taught me to be kind and real but also to shun conventionality when it wanted to hold me back, to listen deeply to myself.

In the editor’s introduction to A Room with a View, Oliver Stallybrass writes that of E.M. Forster’s six novels, “A Room with a View has, if not the longest gestation period (a distinction claimed by A Passage to India), at least the most complicated pre-natal history.” I’m tickled at the metaphor and also at the parallels to the long gestation of my own book. Forster began making notes in the winter of 1901-2 and published the novel in 1908. (At least mine is not like the novel written by one of Forster’s characters whose life work “was carried away by a landslip” leading her “tempted into cigarettes.”)

Fast-forward twenty years… (to be continued)